Lessons & Advice for a Meaningful Life

Finding Our Way Back to Integrity

Oftentimes, we will feel that our happiness depends in some way on impressing other people. Maybe we are attracted to someone and we think if we can impress them with our beauty or intelligence or charm, they will like us. Maybe it is a client or employer that we want to impress to increase or secure our income. Maybe we just want to impress the people around us to enhance or maintain the image of our self that we hold in our mind as being good, attractive, intelligent, savvy, and so on. When we are focused on impressing others, we will often find ourselves speaking and acting in ways that feel artificial. When we do this – when we give up our integrity in order to try to get some attention or respect from another – we feel unhappy and anxious inside. We may experience a little bit of temporary happiness from our efforts, but deep down, we feel just the opposite.

The more we do this, the more difficult it can be to stop doing it. We feel unhappy or lacking in some way, so we seek the admiration or affection of others. When any initial rush we feel from getting some attention from others fades away – and it always does - then we end up feeling even more empty and anxious inside. It is like a hunger that increases the more that we eat. The more we choose artificiality over integrity the more painfully distant we become from what feels right and true in our heart of hearts.

When we find ourselves caught up in this kind of behavior, steadily moving farther and farther away from the voice of wisdom and truth in our hearts, how can we find our way back to center?

Although this seems like a desperate situation, the solution is actually quite simple if we understand who we really are.

According to the ancient yoga scriptures and other bona fide scriptures of the world, we are not the material body or the mind – we are eternal spiritual beings temporarily wearing the material mind and body. The gross physical body can be compared to outer clothes and the mind or subtle energy body can be compared to under clothes. Just as we are not the clothes we are wearing, we are not the material bodies we are wearing either.

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If we understand that we are not the material body we are wearing – and not the mind either – then we will no longer seek happiness and fulfillment through trying to improve or enhance our material “clothes." Instead, we will seek happiness and meaning in terms of our true identity as a spiritual being. The most direct way to do this is through directly connecting with our spiritual Source.

In the ancient yoga system, the recommended method for consciously linking up with our spiritual Source is mantra meditation. A true mantra is not something anyone makes up. It is the Absolute Truth in sound vibration. This spiritual sound vibration descends from the spiritual platform to the material world without losing any of its potency. In mantra meditation, a person hears and chants or sings this spiritual sound and thus is directly relating with the Supreme. This listening of spiritual sounds has a profound purifying effect on our consciousness.

Through the daily practice of mantra meditation, our hearts and minds gradually become purified of material misconceptions and misgivings. As the false ideas we have about ourselves naturally fall away, we increasingly experience and taste the sweetness of our true nature. The more we taste this transcendental sweetness of the holy & sacred mantras from bona-fide sources, the less we are attracted to the shallow highs (and lows) of false prestige and artificiality. There simply is no comparison between real happiness obtained through self realization and the false so-called happiness of external pomp. As soon as we taste enough of the real thing to know the difference, we simply have no desire for anything less.


Instead of seeking to impress others, we will be moved to relate with them in a genuine way – not seeking any special attention, simply speaking and acting honestly from our hearts as far as possible. Instead of trying to get something from them, we can try to humbly offer them a most valuable gift - the opportunity to be themselves, too. The more real we are, the more real others around us will tend to be. This is far more pleasurable and rewarding for everyone than anything ever invented to impress someone. We gradually cultivate real wisdom and enhance our spiritual understanding.

When we are living in integrity with our true nature, valuing sincerity over artificiality, others around us are more likely to do the same. So by choosing to invest our time and energy in uncovering who we truly are - and living in the integrity of what we discover - we are encouraging others to live more authentically, too. This sets a much needed new standard for relating with one another – a standard based not on trying to be superior to others, but on trying to help each other and inspiring in the world a more genuine and loving way of living together.

What impacts us

We are busy doing so many things, hearing music, watching movies and so on. If we take a step back and watch calmly then we will find that we are busy all day long in some kind of activity. Do you think, this does not impact our consciousness? Does it seem reasonable to accept that we can do whatever we want, and still have a desirable consciousness or experience?

What do you think ? Will write on this very soon.

Listen with your Heart

Listen with your Heart

How often is it that we truly give someone our attention when we are supposedly listening to them? And how often are we pretending to listen to them, all along listening to our own thoughts instead? When we are not listening to someone, it is because in that moment we are not caring about them as much as we are caring about something else. Our attention goes to what we are caring about most in that moment.

Oftentimes, what we care about in that moment is not what we really deeply care about in our heart of hearts, but we find that it is difficult to keep our minds away from: our anger, our fears, our anxiety, our attachment to our pride, our embarrassment, our shame, our pain, our desire to be in control, our feelings of being unwanted and unloved, our hunger for something we do not have.

For example, when a wife and husband are having an angry argument, they are caring about their angry emotions more than than they are caring about the other person. They don't truly care about the anger – they don't even like it or want it. It feels horrible. Nevertheless, in that moment, they are attached to the anger they are experiencing more than they are caring about the other person. In this condition, they may be technically hearing the words that the other person is saying to them, but they are not at all listening.

If they were to really listen, deeply and with genuine concern, they might discover what is going on beneath the surface. They might hear: “Please help me. I am so afraid right now. I feel helpless, alone, weak, hurt, broken. I am confused and don't know where to turn for guidance, for safety. I feel like my life is gone. I feel empty. Please love me.”

As living beings, we have a natural desire to connect with others. To love and be loved. But when our consciousness is drawn away from this loving nature by the desires and fears of our mind and senses, we become disconnected. We may hear the words of others, but we cannot make real connections with them and so communication is cloudy, Disharmony and quarrel, chaos and confusion take over, covering our hearts. This happens not only with husbands and wives, but with parents and children, between siblings, friends, and so on.

The heart contains within it a deeper intelligence that can allow a person to reach beyond the surface appearance of things and connect to the essence of a situation, the heart of the matter. If you listen with this deeper intelligence, you can discern what is really important and what is not - and focus your energy, your attention, accordingly. But when it is covered by fear, anger, envy, greed, selfishness, etc., it cannot be easily accessed.

In order to cultivate deep and meaningful relations with others, we need to develop a foundation of real love and concern for others. When this foundation is present, you can listen to others with genuine care, with gentleness, with compassion. You can put aside self-centeredness and work together to try to find a beneficial solution to a problem. And, even if no good solution seems immediately apparent, within the heart you can find a common place of peace and love to rest in - moving forward together from there.

This state of being in harmony with the heart, of being loving with others, is our natural state of being. It has simply become covered by the results of misguided choices we have made in the past – choices that have taken us away from the most authentic, joyful, and meaningful aspect of ourselves. Although our hearts are now covered, they can be uncovered.

Mantra meditation has been utilized for thousands of years to help a person to uncover their true loving nature. By practicing mantra meditation daily, your heart and mind will gradually become cleansed of misunderstandings, misgivings, and other sources of pollution. As your heart becomes purified, real love - selfless love, unconditional love – will be able to blossom there.

When we truly love others, we are naturally concerned for their well-being, so will honestly want to cultivate meaningful, loving connections with them and try to relate with them in harmonious ways. This does not mean that we will automatically have harmonious relations with everyone, but if we sincerely, humbly endeavor to listen with our hearts and also respond with our hearts, we can certainly have a good relationship with anyone who is truly wanting to have one with us. It may take a little effort or a lot, but it is doable. Mantra meditation will help.

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